Tribute

When was the last time, any time that someone, a stranger turned your world around ,spun you 360 degrees and put you back in the same place but this time with a difference.

You get what you want, but not what you need.

 A tribute to a stranger.

My life was dark all around,wherever I'd been,

You came as the star shining bright in the dark skies.

 I mistaken you as the sun, because you shine so bright.

Who are you ? A stranger ? Or someone I've been searching for my life?

So pure, so true, so honest and it's all you.

Pristine and serene is what you've been, 

so far until now this is all I be seen, 

And yet I'm much more keen.

Are you an angel, ? that God sent for me,?

Are you a vision that I've seen, no idea where you've been,

Don't turn away your back so soon, please stay with me,

 I like to shine in your light, 

you make my darkest night, shine so bright.

You are the sun or the star I don't know enough,

But I ll miss you more when you're not around.

 You move away into orbit you go,

I wait for the spinning movement to know,

I want to know when you will be with me,

I miss your smile for miles away I can see,

I close my eyes and dream this dream,

Your hand in mine, for eternity, may it seem,

I found you after a life time this much I know,

You're too precious for me to let go,

You say you're not perfect, ask me

Value of you my shining diamond star in a dark sky as me.

I wonder what you think, why you and us were never known.

 Now that I've seen a glimpse of you, my heart was torn.

I wish you this wish may all your dreams come true.

Wherever you are, just know this much,

I'm always thinking of you.

Dr.Wayne Dyer - Thank You for the parting gift of Inspiration

Recently i received a shocking news about someone's death,
Dr.Wayne Dyer, one of my favourite speakers on self development and self-help was dead, no more.

Immediately i said a silent prayer and continued about my daily work.
When i came home i see i already had a Dr.Wayne Dyer's  intervention  and rightly i believe in it such.
Look at the picture below,  take a look at what i saw lying on my left side at my home table.

I have this 50 card deck brand new , used only once and kept intact since past 2-3 years, now suddenly i find it somewhere, i remember I am glad to find it and i keep it on the table unseen, but by my side just 2 days before the gentleman expires.
A wise man once said a miracle is not a miracle unless you acknowledge it to be a miracle.
For me these small example of synchronicity are not new at all.

Side track example :- Once a friend of mine, hundreds of miles away just  thinks about me around 2:30 AM, and instantly while I was sleeping, i hear her calling my name out.
For heavens sake, I was sleeping , which means all my senses would be tuned out ( or is this when they tune in )  so i get up and i find she says she was waiting for me.

Yes yes i know not many people call out to each other on 2:30 AM but then when you have best friends, who would take a bullet for you and yet pray out for your health at the same time, then you will understand what a relationship means.

So I believe in the above instance Dr.Wayne Dyer 's card deck which is now yet unopened lying next to this writing was exactly the gift from him to me, INSPIRATION.
Need iI add, i need some inspiration to write this blog post too.
*Check the last date of my last post - few months * and at this moment, right now in life too,
 i wished for some inspiration. I got it.

Good things happen to all people, Harmonic resonance is the reason, i believe so.
More on that later. For me this is the law of attraction in action.

Thank you Dr.Wayne Dyer, Bless you, Wherever  in whatever form you may be,
May you be at ease, in peace.

Few words for a stranger

You have all the time in the world,

But I'm on a temporary tour,

You have many things to think about,

But I have only few, one of them being you.

You won't decide if it's yes or no,

I decided about both long ago,

Before I stepped out on the road to meet you,

Why do I sing, why do I whisper your name within,

You would be far, but stranger things had happened at par,

I had a glimpse of eternity in your eyes,

When you were there in front of my eyes,

 A memory is all I hold, of you and me ,

It was pleasant or so I was told.

Dream away your dreams, live your life as you do,

May each step of that way , do find memory of me if you do,

Because somewhere right now you've forgotten me, why such you do?

When every step of my way I send wishes and feelings for you.

Grant you the freedom, give you the world, stay on your side throughout this world,

When my time has ended, when I shall have to go, 

Your memories will sweeten the whole episode and more.

A face can light up the darkest skies,

Ask any lover who knows this will also abide,

This is a tribute not just any lines I know,

So thank you for being there, I really hope it happens so.

Do Something New

Here i offer you a new and  easy access "APP" 
When you install it , you will have an app that offers you easy access to this blog ( you dont have to remember this blog name or url for that matter )
and also for my twitter (@poarousasp) tweets.
This is where you have to click.

http://theapp.mobi/tweetsofwisdom

Depending on your smart device ( tablet/android/blackberry/ipad/any other smart phone) 
Go ahead click the above link, and you will be guided to either of :-
1) an Android market place to install my "app".
2) Provide easy instant access to the  "app "depending on your smart phone features.

Do drop in a line and let me know your feedback, at poarousasp@gmail.com

JUST BY THE WAY  :-

Do something new,
when was the last time you did anything for the first time ?

I just did mine.
your turn now...

Pre surgery fears

Alright the countdown to my hospital admission has begun.

I would be getting admitted for a surgery at one of India's best hospitals.

24 hours from now I would be laying in a hospital bed. 100% certain.

48hours hours from now, my surgery would have happened.and I would be in a hospital bed sleeping

and all my fears would have vanished. 100% certain once again.

Just like the similar moments when I visited the dentist knowing fully well , that I would receive injections in my mouth gums , but then these dentists brother and sister team are the only people I would trust my mouth and life with.

And yes they are experts in their work,

 Strong suggestion, always visit doctors with whom, you can trust your life with.

Coming to my small surgery, I'm nervous,scared and full of fear.

But the surgeon is a sweet old gentleman who has time and again proved his capabilities and expertise .

So I trust him , how much ?

 I am going to be under influence of anaesthesia and his capable hands.

The issue is inevitable, a surgery has to be performed, today or tomorrow.or next year, with whom i get it performed was my major fear. I am paranoid of letting strangers give me valuable advice, this is  a paradox in life, few people love it, others are wiser.

Since I trust this doctor gentleman, his seniority in age,experience,wisdom, and proven expertise I agreed. And he explained to me the steps , I took my time to think about it and agreed to let him perform surgery on me.

Known facts:- needles,drip, anaesthesia, and surgery .when I am in the surgery room, this doctor will be the only familiar face, I would be put to sleep for some time and then the surgery would happen, when it's over I would be woken up by him and shifted to a hospital room! 

Umm it's not going to be easy mentally for me, a person who has never been admitted as a patient to a hospital room ever before.

So for few moments in life , I will have to cease control of my own life and let go.

Reminds me of the SEDONA METHOD of letting go.

May be I learnt,read all these self help books for this moment in life, I certainly think so.

Unknown facts :-I need not know, I'm not playing god, but letting go, learning to let go of my fears and face the surgery bravely. 

And to end this certainty, all I could do is borrow the words "something unknown is doing , I don't know what, to me! 

Next update post surgery and my hospital visit , will post soon, in a few days.

Rudraksha Purchase Experience

 Since long , perhaps about 2 decades ago,I have always been attracted to Rudraksha, 

ever since I visited a gentleman,who also happened to be a priest, and a holy items trader, 

This was way back in my schooling days.

Recently it dawned upon me that I needed to upgrade my existing rudraksha mala into a more powerful combination. The calling was too strong to be ignored. All recent energy and thoughts were surrounded around this enhancement.

For those who don't know , what a rudraksha is, I'll explain.

Rudraksha is a plant bead, from a fruit, and this bead contains seeds within, which define the power /mukhi being good quality,if same as the beads within.

This is a relatively expensive bead since it's prices depend upon the number of actually accounted lines /facets / aka "mukhi" and the bead all over it has different protrusions on it.

I happened to do a long study on the availability, the ease with which I can now purchase Genuine ones, sitting at home, without having to indulge in listening to lengthy explanations, which are narrations of a make believe it or not,godly manifestations. 

Some even recite scriptures to ensure their sales of  these beads. So let's accept it as face value these are religiously sought after beads.few people swear by it too.

Try purchasing one of these online and you will understand my previous statement.

Some use fancy manifestation stories, some narrate historical and religious scriptures, some will invoke holy lucky charms, some will not do anything but supply you exactly whatever you desire to purchase, and add "free gifts" to your existing purchase.

I visited a well known local famous outlet with recently since past year or two as I recall, started these holy services of suggesting what to buy, when to wear, how to wear, what to do, what not to do, invoke the bead with the mantras, etc.

Very good  initiative for the masses I assure you.but not for me. I'm way ahead of such initiatives.

Moresoever the man of this religious counter,of this BRAND outlet , was walking in the aisle.

On enquiry he escorted me to a cabin, where in reviews of their favorite customers were printed .

Being a non conformist, I tried to act normal like a customer who is uneducated on the matter, just to see where it would lead.

In my starting line with the person in charge of the facility, I showed him my existing mala and I mentioned that I was there to purchase a 2 mukhi & a 3 mukhi rudraksha beads. 

But this suave different colored eyed man was not going to leave me, unless he knew my capacity to purchase based onc my residence address location (which I gave out honestly ) and of course ensure his  sales pitch was heard by me.

So he started in a usual enquiry manner, I found it very dubious when he started asking me questions which I replied in the negative, replying back I didn't have any such or close by problems, yet he insisted that I had those issues /problems within my body. His diagnosis of me was based on the location of my residence address and the expensive mala I showed him in my possession.

I told him I was well aware of the sales pitches I've heard many and that my reason there was to purchase a set of missing beads which were additions to my existing expensive mala, few of the beads within we're sold to me at a different location shop, by the brand owner herself, but our man was trying to ensure something else, perhaps his agenda was to find out where I stay and based on that information, make a proposal and a optional purchase.

Now this man claimed all my existing issues in life would be resolved successfully, if I purchased a expensive 17mukhi and another expensive 18 mukhi from him. When asked what if it didn't work, he couldn't offer any guarantees except that he was a student of the great Madame with whom I had interacted in the past purchase and he had belief in them. What he missed out is my belief, the customers belief ?

I saw the size and specimen, which was by far the smallest sized bead of higher facets/mukhi that I had ever held in my hands or purchased previously ever before. I was not new to this game.

Suddenly i felt like I went to visit a Travel agent asking a plane ticket for the snowy mountains, aka Switzerland, and being persuaded to visit the seashores of Dubai.

Both don't mix well, one,Switzerland is a snowy cold country, 

Dubai ,is  a sun shining country in the middle of a desert.

Then I found out he was in charge of that "franchisee shop and the store counter made commission on sales,AHA, .everything made sense now, the persuasion even came to a limit where he mentioned it was a Saturday, day of the gods that ruled the mukhi bead that he had suggested me to purchase from him. He even mentioned stock availability was limited and that he somehow had one piece in store for my purchase facilitation. I said thanks but I would revert to his Madame, ask her opinion of this recommendation and if she says so then why was it not mentioned  in our earlier interactions?

If she too was off his opinion, I would definitely return for a purchase I assured him.

He reverted back that if I was not ready to purchase, If not both pieces, I was adviced to buy one expensive bead at a time and instantly then and there because  it had to be,because my entire future depended on it.

So I big goodbye to that possibility and continued  in my pursuit to enhance my existing beads necklace with the missing /required beads, for it to become a Siddha Mala, a highly auspicious configuration of 1 to 14 mukhi ,quality sized rudraksha beadsof Nepal origin.

Sitting in my car , on my ipad I stumbled upon another dealer showroom who was nearly by, straight upfront and like Larry Winget ideology did what he said, in the manner he said, at the price he said.

I purchased my highly expensive 3 beads purchases from that store, (approximately $1200 in US currency ), received one relatively priced bead for free and in the process made an acquaintance with a straight forward business man who doesn't use "mumbo jumbo" nor religious incantations to push sales. 

His pitch was simple. I ask, he advices and supplies the same with options. I made my choices and he made his sales, I completed my configuration of "a siddh mala" nearly after 20 years of belief in rudraksha's power.  I'm a happy customer and much happier to wear my siddha mala.

On a side note , I'm not a Hindu, But yet , i do believe and respect all religions. Like Larry Dossey mentioned Sir Arthur Eddington's Quote :-" Something Unknown Is Doing, We Don't Know What."

Secret Language Of Your Name

This is a title of a book written by Neil Koyelmeyer & Ursula Kolecki,

 I have interestingly read this book, and normally i do not like reading small print.

None of the reviews of the internet were of much assistance to me and seeing this book I feel I must write a note about it.

Nowadays most reviews are same, unless it is a widely publicized book,

I feel such but that is another story. Most reviewers normally  cut copy paste the existing available matter on the subject.

I experienced this same phenomenon at time of purchase of " rudraksha"beads also.

Same literature gets repeated and repeated, which means a lie repeated few times finally becomes accepted as truth. LOL. Isn't this true?

This book will require simple reading, but it is not a easy read at all.

I'm still confused about the "grid". It is confusing but I shall continue my pursuit to understand my numerological influences.

Most parts of this book are very interesting, simple to understand.

As I understand the book,mainly there are 6 spheres of influence.

This is the main subject matter , unlocking of the mysteries of the name and birth date, 

Few spheres are derivations of the  date of birth, while

rest/ other spheres are derived from the name, full name,vowels and consonants within.

The first few chapters on the spheres  were not at all confusing at first read, but 

As I said to myself "If you want to understand the workings of the world, you must at first understand your own working".

Most of the revelations are concise, precise  I  have definitely understood my own actions 

and why I do things in a certain manner, they gave more clarity and were simple to understand.

As per this book my relevant spheres of influence are as follows :-

1st Sphere of Personality is 1, supported by 2 & 8

2nd Sphere  of Destiny is 3.

3rd Sphere of my name is 6. :-defining my personality & talents.

4th Sphere of Expression is 1.

5th Sphere of Inner person is 5.

6th Sphere of Outer person is 5.

What do these numbers mean ? To a person who has never read this book, it's just a numerical value of vibration.

To those who read this book, it will mean much much deeper than understanding one's own self.

Like I said before  "If you want to understand the workings of the world, you must at first understand your own working".

Go ahead buy this book, find out what the science of numerology can reveal about your own self.

I certainly did.

Spoon Bending Experiment Result

"Something Unknown Is Doing We Don't Know What"

This is a must see movie.

I have seen this movie /documentary for  a couple of times and every time I'm fascinated by it.

Today I tried for the Second time the spoon bending experiment and here is the result.

AMAZING, yes I did have a little effort to it but it felt the stainless steel was malleable, and moved like a spring in my fingers/hand.

Mind Over Matter?

One more picture showing the complete spoon.

Highly recommend this experiment, and would recommend everyone to see if you this movie.

Me? I believed it, I practiced it and here is my result. Let me know your results.

God versus man, who wins? I'll laugh and smile.

Past few years I have been traveling from the sea side roads,

admiring the empty space aka the skies, and always since childhood I been thinking that cannot be empty space.

Now with the recent Nobel Peace prize work mentioning about "the God Particle " I feel validated in my thoughts.

Last few days I have been driving and at signals stopped to see and be amazed by the gods wondrous skies.

 Yesterday I posed this question to myself :-

Supposing god come down on this seaside shore, 

What will I do ?what will I show god?

So I turned to the wondrous city made of bricks,

concreted skyscrapers and the urban jungle I call 

this city as home. And I will turn to god and 

say "human kind made this " then I would smile and 

stay silent in its omnipotent presence thinking of maximizing 

my earthly benefits from gods blessings.

Selfish ain't i ?

Then it would be god's turn.

And god would turn to the blank empty horizon where the sun rises/sets and the horizon where the skies meet the seas, 

and god would whisper "I give you this" and god would laugh on my earthly face and say "I Win" and the conversation would end with me starring into the empty yet beautiful heavenly creation and whisper the scores:- "GOD One /Earth -humans Zero, God Wins".

This is where the signal became green and I laughed at gods winning hands down by any and all standards.

In the end Good and God Wins.Always.

The Last Show For The First Time

Far away from right or wrong judgements,

Distant away from me right now,

 I feel and know of a moment when we shall cross paths again,

Each one of us, you and me will meet again,

I know not what to judge or say ,

bout a distant moment that will come in alls way,

I know when my time is due,

I shall be standing either back or front of you,

Stand by my side if Judgement awaits,

The que is not front or back but sideways.

I will stand with my head and pride held high, 

until I find those who I did not abide by,

I shall stand besides kings and queens  

of past and few of today too,

But I shall point fingers at many others I promise I will identity you

I shall ask then and await your decision then,

I shall ask you  "Did you think about me, Back then ? "

Poets and lovers shall understand my words today,

If not then you shall meet me when we come across our ways,

There is a lot of sorrow of wrongs and rights included within,

This is My Last Show For The First Time.

Poarousasp.E.Mistry

Why I MUST buy books online ?

Today was a special day.

Like every other day at office leaving time, I passed a message to my car colleagues, that I need to visit a book store to purchase a book, an expensive interesting new age information book.

And if that book was purchased, I would read it tonight, all night.

Nothing more interesting in a single man's life, a book purchase , OMG I need to get married soon.

If only that would soften my miserable existence and current condition. God,are you listening?

Umm coming back to my book purchase situation. 

A senior gentleman at work, immediately asked me why I was not purchasing this book online ? I promptly replied to him as follows :-

" Sir there is no Charm of a book purchase in an online store, moresoever I'm old school, I like to browse and I need an atmosphere that is condusive to my book purchases.

Plus I am an esteemed member of a very chic bookstore.

And did I mention they also have a very chic up market cafe, where I normally run up a nice bill as well.

Everybody wins, everybody happy and I would have that book in my possession soon with a gleam on my face.

Plus I checked that bookstore online, they have it in stock available .

Smiles on faces all around. Nothing can go wrong here ?

Little me is going to the bookstore.

Kind of like, Elvis is in the building, situation happening shortly."my reply ended, my enthusiasm continued.

That was then in office, this is now, post my visit to the chic book store, eating a gingerbread piece , purchased from the bookstore's cafe, minus the book, sad face here.

You ask me "Where is the book "? I reply back "Sorry no book !"

Allow me to share the sequence of events.

I entered the book store, walked up to the counter with the fancy dumb terminal that serves as a wonder machine for search enthusiasts. This is where they enter details of your requirement and instantly claim if they have that particular item in store or not.

I requested a search for my particular book, reply received. "Sorry sir, no such book available."

Gulp! Requested please try with author name spelled out, "sorry sir no such author"

 To top it all the junior asked a senior manager with a tie,  a sort of Mister KNOWITALL who impromptu gave me a sneer look claiming he had not heard of any such author.

When I told them it is available in their store online, I was informed that is a separate department with separate stocks, not their lookout.

Hooray for Internet, after this post , I shall be making an online purchase from the same store only online, and hey icing on cake is, it has 24% discount offering over the Maximum retail price.

Some other night I shall read that book, -10 days waiting period.

And now someone ever wants me to author a book ?

Staying Single versus "being in love"

There was a time for a few years, when I was happily in love with a girl who at that time of my life was "the most beautiful girl in the world" to me. Today I beg to differ. Then our relationship ended, my rich fulfilled life dissolved into a mess. If it was a mess before, the break up made it messier.

Then came a second time when I got loved by the "sweetest girl in the world" and gave a cleanup to the existing mess.And then there is a time now when I am single again.So why is it everyone I know, every one you know, everyone that they know are happilyy in love, happily married and I am not yet married?

I feel may be when one is in 

Over, they give so much they forget to expect ? Or is it the other way around that happened to me?

I took so much I forgot to give?

Well in first case I gave so much I forgot to ask to receive love, all I asked was faithfulness, and the matter ended in a couple of years.

In the second case I took so much I forgot to give love. I expected everything to happen in its own time and place, nothing happened except break up.

Why a, I writing these words. So that in case the reader goes through a similar or worst situation than I am going through (being single is a qualified situation) then someone can refer to my words and seek solace as moments come by.

There is a tendency to expect and to give. but both do not coexists. At times we take, at times we give and we do it so synchronously it seems both coexists.

If the opposite person meets our desires, loyalty starts, if the ether person lacks in any way, we choose to look the other way.

Love is a strange conceptual existence, makes humans and animals and birds and even god do strange things at stranger times at strangest moments , in short it is inconceivable

Yet it is something that  has to be experienced.

So here I wish you all a very happy feeling of love and good luck in the moments ahead. 

Tick tock tick tock, the silence remains, you will be loved and you will fall in love, some time somehow, somewhere, with someone. Until then stay good, stay nice, stay contented. 

When was the last time you were ready to fall in love ?Look at the stars in the sky they shine so bright, look at the darkness rise and fall amongst them all.

Which one is better ? The dark sky or the stars ?you decide tonight .

A non local message / Synchronistic witness.

A strange synchronicity moment was witnessed by me, today morning.
Location : my office car parking basement. The incident is better narrated as such.
It went something like this...
Last night same location my car had autocop issues, alarm blarred for hours, battery went dead, called the 24 hour helpline, they came, disconnected the autocop protection system, charged a nice bill,late night, dropped 2 colleagues to railway station, went home, slept.
Today morning:woke up, got dressed for work, went to car parking basement , stopped the car, picked up my belongings and walked away from the car and walked to the far end

Non local co relation event happened. /Witnessed by me, i heard a distinct engine "tink ", a sound effect as if one of those cars were trying to communicate with me , giving me a hint towards something. Could be one of those 5 cars i was glancing as they were all parked, locked ,empty, yes i checked all empty.
The smokent i heard the "tink", i shifted my internal reference point to the sound asking myself what is trying to communicate, whats the message here?
I stood experiencing the message trying to decipher it.
Almost as if automatic , my hands searched for the car keys in my pockets.
Simultaneously my body turned , i walked towards the car.
I found i had left the car keys in the switched off ignition slot.
Took out the key, manually locked the car and smiled at all the 5 cars, thanking them for the message. At last i understood, a non local message was sent to me.
If you have ever witnessed any such incidents, i would gladly like to hear it from you.
Write to me at poarousasp@gmail.com

Every business says they wants excellence, but who is ready to recognize or realize ?

I work in a company in a multi functional senior role.
From time to time i have worked for loss prevention (amounting in each case at a nice amount) saving the company at least a few lacs of rupees ( in our local currency).

The loss is prevented, or many a past crimes detected, policies followed and throughly investigated.

Yes i've studied law, the rest is excellence in human resources and a natural instinct.
It is also not my job KRA or any interest whatsoever.

While i completed my role to extract 4 confessions from such 4 bad people, my senior asked me as to why is it i have a 100% hit rate. .
What makes a criminal confess to me and not to others ?
How do i do it?

While i narrated the sequence of events that is followed and basics of human psychology and instinct.
What has this got to do with excellence?

1) At work?
Many an employee demonstrate excellence in their work structure, process, or results.
Few are good at structure, few good at passing the work around aka "Delegating".
Some are excellent in the way they present the situation, example :-every failure is a new step towards a new journey.
Few are good at sales, excellent results on time every time.
The sad part is who is there to recognize these talents ? Nuture them? Grow them?
And if such a person did exists what part of his job "Key Result Area "(KRA) basis of his job role would permit them to indulge for such activities.
And if such a KRA gets involved in work role, then human psychology would ensure a preference and partiality would set in.

The stark reality of so called businesses & professionals is everyone has their own KRA, Professional KRA or either Personal KRA or either a combination of both, 2 in 1,

What they say, they never do. What they don't say, they will always do and also find a reason to get you involved in achieving their KRA with your assistance.

Whose got time to recognize and nuture talent? NO ONE on a KRA.....

find a man who has a KRA, end of excellence, its a concept of give and take.
you give this, i give you that in return.

2)Personal, in our own lives?
Are you aware how many good qualities your (husband or wife as your gender be ) possess?
Are you aware of these same good qualities of your own parents?

Chances are you said a big "NO" immediately first then realised hey yes yes they have this quality...and such and so on.

Bit i am pretty sure if i posed this same question to you in the negative enquiring about their bad qualities , you would say (he /she has this bad annoying disgusting habit .... And your description of these qualities would be exhaustive.

What has this got to do with excellence? If you cannot recognize excellence how would you seek it in the first place and if, perish the thought, excellence was served to you on a Gold Platter you would still continue your descriptive search for your meaning of how it should be, not what it is , even though in front of you.

Everyone wants to comment on the grass thats greener on the other side of their corporate fences, who wants to water their own gardens ?
You will never reap flowers in your own garden by commenting on the green color of someone else's lawn.
Plant your own seeds,Nuture them well and then expect nature to reap your crop, of flowers, or grass or even people in your companies.

"Be excellent while you live, be extra ordinary excellent after you die "

Just as this year of 2012 is coming to an end, so will many a good thing and bad things end too.
On this moment of endings, i wish to share a personal thought and a very controversial experience.

Many a wise rich business men/women/ always ensure they make a "will " before they die and also appoint their well trusted friends as "executors of the will".

My question to you is what if the executors have vested interests in the last belongings of the deceased? Think about it, the best wars in the world were started on the noblest intent.

What is the compensation for an executor (friend of family, usually) to NOT have vested outside interests, long after you are gone , ( which means you cannot check on his execution at all) And in case the executors goof up, whose checking all pages of your will? They themselves? 

Appoint your executors internal and external, better still while you are alive, call all your beneficiaries and hand them your benovalence in person, while you are alive, do not wait till the end to start hand outs. 
Start giving out small feelers, teasers to beneficiaries. let them know they are the beneficiary right from the day you write their name in your last will.

To that, lets start a Happy 2013, & end all bad thoughts...Good bye 2012.

Christmas on 21st December 2012.

Many sun rises ago, someone said the Mayan Calendar ends its cycle on 21st December 2012.

I have decided to note my thoughts on this subject.

Q:-How can someone see precisely into the future , approximate 5000 years and predict events precisely ? 

My thinking :-" WHY NOT? hello , just because you think only the 3rd planet from a bright sun entails life, will not change someone else's thinking that there might be a same twin mirror planet with same instances happening on the 300th planet and the 3000th planet from this same bright sun. So helloooo! "

Q:Were they time travellers? Aliens? Superior life forms/civilization/etc?

My thinking :- If you  &  i both of us, think that i am dumb, then everytime you see me you will treat me as if I'm dumb and i will continue to ensure your prophecy of me being a lesser life form than you. 

But if you and i both jointly conclude, we are equals, then mutual respect, admiration and friendship follows through. 
We all live daily with our own versions of reality, a perception, a thought, a mutually exclusive conclusion, within our self made and allowed environments.

Example:- You would wear that sharp business suit ( skirt/dress for ladies ) to your office appraisal day, But if you were to visit a wild life sanctuary on that same day would you be dressed same ? differently? 
Same person, different environments results in different perceptions and subsequent actions. 

Now what does my reply to the above question conclude? 
- If you think they were time travellers, then they were ! If you conclude they were alien visitors from the 300th planet from the sun, Then they were exactly  that. Doesn't this mean you point at the sun and exclaim it to be a moon ?
Exactly, to a child whose learning the sun and moon & the planets,
on day one both  are same, no difference and no connection to reality. 

Just because you and i are amazed, does not mean everyone has to dress our way, think in our thought pattern zones and act like we choose to do.

So happy 21st December 2012 and let by gones be bygones.

How did i celebrate my 21st December 2012
By choosing to make a unknown stranger in tattered clothes happy.
The story goes like this :- i was about to enter my car and a man with a cycle ( yes a 2 wheeled NON-motorised bicycle) was asking me to buy heart shaped red balloons.
He said he needed some basic food grains for his children and wife at home and balloon business was not started even thought the evening came to night.

Mind you he did not beg, he was offering me to buy his red heart shaped balloons, so that he could go home early, as it was very late for him.

"Ha" ! i said to myself , I, a 40 year old single man , "what will i do with 1 dozen red balloons ?" 

Suddenly, i said "hey this is my window to end my 21st December 2012 night and fast forward direct to 25th December 2012, let me play Santa for this man at this moment".

Then i opened my car lock, politely smiling at that man on his cycle, appreciated his balloons, i slid my hand into the right hand box under the steering where i keep change from my toll tickets and counted that change, it was small change, so i counted money from my top pocket too.
Lo & behold i had onlky Indian Rupees one hundred & twenty ( Rs:120 = approximate $2 yes $2 not $20 or $200) in 7 different denominations, which i handed over to that unknown stranger man. My pockets became empty as i had just paid my few last pocket balance to drink 2 coconuts.

I was a man without any money in my car or pocket or wallet. 

For that moment , precise time i felt i am SANTA. But when i handed him the money he said "saheb take these balloons " All i could do is smile and tell him  this was not charity , not from a rich man to a poor man,
but this act of giving is from one human to another, from one sales man to another, one son to a father ( he was quite old ), and it was  being a token of appreciation for his efforts to be a balloon sales man.

My smile brought happiness to his face and he smiled back, thanking me a million wishes. He was having tears of joy blessing me, saying "tonight my house will have essentials to cook and my children will eat".

Not only did i bring him happiness, i gave him courage to be a sales man, courage to keep going when no one wants to buy the red balloons, and wait for them to come buy them. 
It gave me happiness to know for one night, i supported a man who could not go home empty handed. He was a man on a mission to feed his wife and children of 3 ,to buy raw essentials for their dinner.

In my past 40 years many people have known me to give away money for various reasons to various people at various moments.Of bigger amounts, of bigger times but... 

For me 21st December 2012 , the red balloon salesman is the most memorable, a befitting end to the mayan calendar end. * cheers with that empty 2 coconut shells.*

That's how i celebrated Christmas,- on the 21st December 2012,much before, before it comes. 
That is how i did my time travel to Christmas .
Let me know, when you do your time travel !
Merry Christmas ! & Wish you a very happy end of a mayan calendar, and also a start of our collective decision label known as 2013 year 

New IPAD 64gb

Got myself a "NEW IPAD" ( did not say IPAD 3 because its not the correct nomenclature/name)
Day one - Happy Birthday to me, now you know why the IPAD is in my hands.
The monstrosity, ooohhhhh , "how did i exists without one of these technical gadgets in my hands before" feeling set in instantly.

I shall  answer that question , simple because i carry with me 2 mobile handsets ( one official  , other blackberry personal). Thought i should mention, most readers would say "shouldnt it be other wise?" Blackberry should be official?  eeh hee hee, ( yes the first word is my surprising " eh!!") I did not want one then, and i was a windows fan. 

Now onto the  Day 1 memories again :-
Did research on pricing, we are all onto a bigger better deal  sometimes or the other. So i did more than basic fact finding and after a lot of hunting in the dark, found that small stores offer a better pricing than the "Authorised Resellers". Ummmm why would i buy from a "reseller"? My work has facilitated my brain to think, there has to be a seller not a reseller. LOL , i know, im crazy talking some  blasphemy like this, read on...
Found a store known to me , since years for  its great pricing and volume business, Had to drive  there, and this is what i faced to get my hands on a discounted ( I paid nearly 10% or something closeby ) to buy it. I had to be wriggling and justling my arms against a pretty & gentle scented goddess of a teenager, ( hmmm, hmmm, hmmmm ) a giant armed man with 2 bags in his hands about to bang into my legs, a cute small child wearing a Tshirt that said "i'm Naughty" ( didnt notice the slender lady who was carrying her) , few extremely fat ladies and their husbands ( imagine their mouths filled with some chewing tobacco type substance ) most of them enquiring about /jostling for the latest mobile handsets. 
I did hear someone ask for Apple Iphone 5. LOL its officially not launched in India as yet.But yet they enquired, Suddenly my eyes fell upon my order, a  64 GbB WIFI/4G model.
With the money i saved as discount, i bought a camera connection kit and original ipad cover - green in color. Now finally "the beast". 

Note to readers:- I use this term for all my purchases
Example:- 
My first ever stereo set Kenwood - 959 - " Beast "
My first car Maruti 1000 - "The beast" 
Second car Maruti Estillo Zen  - Da Beast"
Acer laptop 5740G - "Beast"
2 TB External Hard Drive - "Beast"
Blackberry 9860 3G mobile handset -" Beast "
Apple NEW IPAD 4G & WIFI 64 GB - "Beast"
Next purchase -  "Beast"

Day 1 - unboxed the ipad, set basic settings, When you buy it, you have to register the piece, which was easy , very easy,
It was very easy and simple to pair it with my Blackberry 9860's hotspot and used the internet over wifi.

Next day Took it to office, "Go Green ", same evening , visited vodafone, ( horrible customer service and useless documentation procedure for an existing client,  but good speeds on 3G. Got myself a the basic cheapest  prepaid plan (Now I cannot trust them after my blackberry incident with them which still makes me pay around Rs:900 + rupees per month) -Separate incident posted before.

Promises of activation , s ame day, /next day, /call us, blah blah blu blu, " mental note to self was " please let me get away from here".

Day 3
Blazing speeds, 7.1 mbps ,

Day 4
Downloaded basic seesential software and customized it

Day 5
posted this post

Day 6 -
WIll add pictures

post in progress,,,,

Before you Cheat Your Girlfriend ( the book every man should read and every girl should know)

I have started writing this book,today i present the first page written for your reviews & opinion ) please advice.

 

Before you Cheat Your Girlfriend

(The book every man should read and every girl should know)

This particular topic is a little bit controversial. The moment you read this line, you might have said to yourself “ I didn’t cheat on my girlfriend ever, god promise, I swear , this topic is not for me”.

*Cough Cough * “Come on now, confess to me, baby, I am YOUR WINGMAN,”   

Consider yourself to have “cheated” on  your girlfriend IF :-

1)      You starred or oogled at the sweet/cute / hottie  girl in your class meetings.
( school/college/library/tution/yoga/meditation/study  group/prayer meet ,
Yes that’s right you oogled her , you looked at her, do not resist the truth, and don’t grin  back to  me, and also don’t laugh it off.
I know you did it. They all know you did it, you know you did it,  then why protest,  tick mark here and read the next line. OK?

2)      You saw a girl and ever mentioned “So Sweet/sexy/hot/some personal /regional language slang word describing the meaning you know I meant to tell you here”   .

Yeah I know you are going to make a quick resisting come back to me and ask me  questions like:-

You - “Whoa are you nuts dude?” 

 Me  - * grins back at you*whispering  I am your wingman dude, come on now * pats your shoulder read on bro “

3)      You gave a  (“life saving”) lift  to your girlffriend’s best friend.
All because you didn’t “want” her to walk back home. You may have cited reasons like “it is dark OR  she is your best friend/ Or  I  will take her back home on the way to my home”

4)      You actually accept it by now .

Yeah, you cheated on your girlfriend. You accepted it? Good boy, Read on. I forgave you before you knew it.

 
In your heart you did feel a little pang of  resistance at that time but you didn’t know what to do next so what the heck you went all the way to cheating  with her.

In your wingman bro. You say “ its her fault too, she made me do it, I was like this and it was like that “

Or you could claim innocence and say you were driven into the arms of another lover because your girlfriend was not loyal to you/not giving you enough time/ * insert some inert blabbering here *

Words do not permit me to be typed here else I would be abusing you while I laughed along with you  in a perverted sense of making you realize and accept you are a human being who just accepted a mistake. A mistake that seem unforgivable, but I forgave you before I started writing these words.

Why did I forgive you? Because you are inside a body trying to be a human being.

A lesson in retail - London Duty Free Airport Store

Ka ching! Old time cashier machines would make a bell "ka ching" sound when they registered a sale.
I take this opportunity to remember a personal fond memory of a sales person.
I was in Mumbai and a near dear close loved one was making a purchase for me at a  far away location =  LONDON!

It was night 2 am and i received a call on my mobile. Tring! tring! ( i had the old fashioned ringer tune on my latest mobile thus tring tring).I picked up the call anxiously wondering who/what/why happened. The caller screen showed some strange number which i couldnt not decipher.
It was my dear near loved one, using  a mobile from a duty free store at London Airport, United Kingdom.

She was in a fix, whether to buy item number 1, number 2 from store A or number  3 from other store B.

The sales girl started helping her make an informed decision , and enquired with her as to  what was the hesitation to purchase item 1 or 2.
So, the near dear loved one replied to explain that she had only this much money amount and one strange recipient ( ME)  to satisfy, thus the confusion.
The sales girl whipped out her mobile and offered her to make the call, speak to the recipient overseas (me) and find out whether to make any of purchases.
My near dear loved one, replied back "what if i dont buy any of your items", The sales girl replied, it was not a problem at all. She understood the confusion my near dear loved one was going through and wanted to help her make an informed buying decision so that one strange recipient overseas would get happy.

While talking the mobile got disconnected. By the time i tried figuring out how to make an international call on that same number i got a 2nd call and a 3rd call too from the same number. Line disconnected so what call again. speak.
I was amazed, a stranger helping my near dear loved one. Was something different flowing in the waters of london that such level of comfort was being offered to customer, who might not have bought even a single product ?Or was it their training to give the best possible customer service? ( retailers wake up )

The sales girl kept assuring my near dear loved one, it was ok, its cool to make tat call, because it was her personal mobile and not official number that she would get into trouble for misuse.
More strange, i was overwhelmed that night, first to have received a call, second to have been introduced to such a sales girl.
Althought this incident is years ago, i remember asking my near dear loved one to say "thank you" and ensure to buy something from that store".
Ka Ching!!!  They bonded and was guided to make a perfect shopping decision.
As i remember  a nice amount was spent.  Moresoever a happy customer, moresoever a happier strange recipient, more better, i was that strange recipient mentioned above and i am writing this incident years later.

Once I did hear Robert Stevenson mention 8/16 rule,something that goes like this, if your customer service is good they will tell  8 people, but  if you goof up , they will tell 16.

So, trying to change that rule and becoming an exception, i reverse that rule, if someone does something bad, i dont scream my lungs out to the world, no  no no. The meek shall inherit the world - i  was taught such.
But if someone does something good, ( like great customer service) i shall surely tell more than  8 or 16 people.

By the way  i was touched by that polite customer service gesture of the sales lady at london airport.
Whoever you are, Thank You. Its too late for me to even recall her name.

But you as a reader can go ahead, do something good for a stranger, may be someday, someone, somewhere will write about your kind gesture.
Thank you near dear loved one, thank you sales person at london airport duty free store.
Retailers are you listening ? if not,, no wonder you cannot hear the sound of "Ka Ching" in your sales register.

Good bye Bad Customer Service( Nokia) Hello Blackberry !( god knows their services) Why & How i bought a Blackberry ?

It was a nice sunny day and i wanted a pair of  bluetooth headphones accessories for my nokia N97 mini phone.  I searched the internet if any company could cater to my demand, Yes ! hooray nokia has it for me.
Did basic  pricing search, I was even ready to buy at full price MRP. It was expensive Rs:4299  ( i think around US $ 80 approximately)

Next 3 days i tried and visited 5 Nokia outlets , they had everything nokia sells, except my headphone set which i wanted to purchase asap. Finally a small "Nokia authorised" sales outlet offered me the same headset. Model No : BH-505 a bluetooth stereo headphone set.
I paid the price, unboxed it on site and put it to use.
AAAAHHH i was in technology nirvana!! Literally music to my ears.

Later within 15 days of use, i saw their manufacturing defects come out, the headset's right arm cracked,Later 2 more cracks surfaced. I took it to their 3 service centers in different parts of the city.
Each one spewed out adhoc policies. "This piece cannot be repaired , has to be exchanged but we cannot exchange it as it seems to be  physical breakage' .
I offered to pay them costs for repairs, let me  listen to my guru's speeches and  self improvement works, on my mobile "phone, please, please", but they didnt help at all.
They summarized to meant to say "BUY A NEW SET. once again ."

"Yeah ? oh yeah ?"You want me to spend $80 for a new defective product line? thanks, fool me once you are a fool, fool me twice i really become a fool.

Usually i do not take shelter with abusive language, but in their case my mind started thinking differently. I was a faithful nokia user since past decade and here in my time of need, which i am ready to pay, no help came across. One service center manager took a photograph saying he would ask the company to replace and call me. Its been months, no call came through. Least the center manager could do was call me and say e couldnt  get a replacement ? too much to ask for? Todays, world seems "just pay and buy now, forget service. Thanks to foreign culture permeating the indian culture i think so. "

To make long story short, but to keep it memorized, i write it here for my own record. 

Kept suffering with a broken bluetooth headset, which made me feel perhaps i should junk the root of this cause of discomfort.
I said to myself, "if NO nokia mobile, then  no need for bluetooth headset.

Remove the cause, the effects  will stop".

I forgave Nokia and forgot nokia, - My self concept of forgive  then forget.

So the next religious opportunity i received, i changed my mobile from NOKIA to BLACKBERRY.
One thing lead to another and i bought a BLACKBERRY 9860 (Torch).
Yes, now i use a wired basic cheap headphone set and i  would never ever will i allow bad customer service to affect me. Even it its at a cost. Live Life Kingsize always within your own means.

Good bye Nokia ! Hello Blackberry!